Words by Katy
Next week I’m having a knee operation. I’ve been preparing myself for a positive experience. Many mamas I work with are preparing for a birth in hospital that they are nervous about , and many are preparing for a caesarean that they really would have liked to avoid . Of course I don’t have a lovely squishy new baby to look forward to ( although I am looking forward to my new not-so squishy ligaments ) but I have been raiding my own hypnobirthing tool kit for some powerful tools that have been helping me so much .
Through out this process I have been empowered by the very things I teach on my course about discussing options and choices with my healthcare team . Although I was hoping to avoid surgery entirely , I felt able to discuss the risks and benefits of all my options and feel that I have been listened to and not patronised . I used a bunch of questions straight out of my own client’s cheat sheet in the course workbook !
I have been applying all my favourite hypnobirthing techniques for reducing FEAR and ANXIETY in the run up to d-Day ... I have been using affirmations that support a positive frame of mind and reprogram those repetitive negative thoughts. I have been listening to some of our very own Calm Birth School MP3s daily , which has been hugely reducing both my fears and increasing my feelings of calm confidence . It’s not just for birth !
I’ve also been preparing my space . Not a birth pool or hospital bed , but I have been really supercharging the things I find relaxing and nourishing to have around me in my bedroom while I recover . Who wants to be hanging In a room full of stressful things like laundry and piles of junk from all over the house? My bedroom hasn’t looked this nice since I set up ready for my babymoon with Jesse . Ive brought some of my plants upstairs to as they make me happy and I’ve been using my room spray ... which I will be bringing to hospital to help me relax and feel good while I’m there! I am spending time practicing my relaxation techniques and reducing stress around my household so I am ready to a peaceful recovery with a quiet mind .
I’ve also been taking my own ‘good vibes only’ advice . I have NOT been listening to other people’s hospital horror stories . I’ve been reading positive blogs about recovery from my particular surgery and I have NOT been googling crazily . I haven’t taken it as far as watching positive surgery videos as that would be insane and I’m crazy squeamish ( there are some amazing positive caesarean videos about though ! ). I have though been familiarising myself with the anatomy of my knee .. it’s much less mysterious and frightening that way .
So although the surgery is a bit scary . Having to have it has been a disappointment. It’s not something I really want, I can’t avoid it, and recovery is gonna be a bit inconvenient.. there is a whole world of wonderful stuff at the other side ( new stable knees! ) I feel well equipped and and peaceful . I may not be able to control every circumstance in my life, but wow I’ve got some powerful tools to affect how I FEEL about it . Thank you Hypnobirthing!
PS... I’ve got space for one more couple on my Folkestone group course in May , one more couple on my Weekend course in Margate in June , and space for 3 couples on my June course in Folkestone . So if you want your life-changing antenatal education from a chilled out mama on crutches hit me up before the weekend as I’m not checking my inbox next week.