Words by Sophie
Hello there gorgeous pregnant Mama!
I have a very important message for you and I want you to make sure you really listen. You are truly wonderful! It is time to celebrate you.
And you really are amazing... just feel that for a moment!
You. Are. Creating. Life.
You are growing, shaping, and developing a small person in your womb.
You have grown a placenta.
Lets take a second to appreciate that. Your body which you so often put down, and see as not enough or lacking in some way has grown a new organ that protects, feeds and sustains your baby in your womb.
You are growing a muscle called the Fundus. This incredible muscle is vital to the second stage of labour and it will be worked and primed during labour so that when the time is right it has the power to push your baby out.
Think about that. So a baby (or babies), an organ, a new muscle, gearing up for breastfeeding AND functioning yourself.
Pretty amazing stuff right!
So why can you not feel positive? Why do the doubts set in? Why do you worry about your body's ability to birth?
The answer is simple.
It has been conditioned by media and society from almost infancy to think that you are not enough.
Too fat, thin, clever, slow, quiet, loud, tall, short, happy, sad, individual. Wrong skin, hair colour, Hair too straight, too curly.
We have layered on makeup and squeezed into lycra to cover what magazines and celebrities have deemed as unattractive and unwanted.
Trust me I know ALL about this! I have been plagued and hounded by insecurities, an eating disorder, and huge anxieties around my weight, looks and what I saw as lack.
In my teens I layered on foundation and baggy clothes to hide what actually made me who I AM. I was not told it was normal to be different because actually everybody is individual. I felt I needed to conform and hid anything I saw as not conforming.
Of course my loved ones told me that I was beautiful and that I should not hide but I gravitated towards the negative and focused ONLY on the words spoken by teenage bullies and the magazine articles about how to lose 15lb in a week.
I did not take a single minute to appreciate that my skin was beautiful, that I should have focused on my OWN individual beauty.
Everyone is beautiful in so many millions of different ways. There is no one else in the world like me and that is pretty damn special.
When I was pregnant for the first time I approached birthing Felix thinking that surely something would go wrong. It was inevitable as it was me and I thought that everything always went wrong when it came to me. I again focused on the negatives and expected negative outcomes.
My birth was traumatic and that was hugely down to what I expected it to be and my HUGE lack of preparation because of this. I saw this as more failure. More things to feel lacking in. My awesome mother could give birth, my friends, and countless women all over the world.
But not me. I couldn't.
My insecurities stepped up. They were life consuming. My partner will remember having to force me out of the door so many times because I did not want anyone to see me. I didn't connect with others, I shied away from seeing people from before my pregnancy as I felt ashamed of how much I had changed.
My journey to feel more positive has been a long one because I didn't have anyone to guide me until relatively recently. My first step was finding likeminded friends who supported me regardless of how I was feeling.
My biggest and most life changing action was doing hypnobirthing with my second pregnancy. I truly believed in myself for the first time in my whole life and that feeling has continued. I really saw exactly how bloody capable I was. And I aced Esther’s birth. It was wonderful! (You can read more about that here )
So this brings me to my very exciting news! I have been busy creating a half day retreat for all you gorgeous pregnant women.
Time that will entirely focus on YOU. I will build up your confidence and show you how important YOU are and just how important and powerful this is!
This is the perfect compliment to one of our hypnobirthing courses or just to give you a boost of self confidence, love and some well deserved time out to truly 100% focus on you.
It will be running soon, just finalizing dates! I am so excited EEK! Keep an eye out for announcements or email us here to get on the waiting list!
This is powerful and life changing stuff and I am so excited to share it with you!
It all started for me by recognizing that I was important, that I needed to hold space for myself sometimes. That I must do things that make ME happy and then I would have a strong spring board, or foundation build anything I want on top.
And I mean anything - family, business, dream job, calm pregnancy, positive birth, or acing motherhood. This is the MOST important thing you can ever do for yourself.
If we had been encouraged to think about ourselves as truly individual, important, and worthy rather than thinking of places we think we lack we would be SO much more comfortable and confident with pregnancy, birth, and motherhood BEFORE we even approach it. This is the sad truth but we are sowing the seeds of change for our hypnobirthing couples and we can help you too!
We have spaces on our upcoming group classes in Faversham, Margate and Maidstone for more details or to invest in your space click here. We also teach 1:1 and intensive courses all over Kent for more details or to invest in your space click here.
Interested but not quite ready to invest yet? Why don't you come along to one of our popular Introduction to Hypnobirthing Workshops in Whitstable, Margate and Maidstone. These are a great way to get to know one of the knowledgeable and passionate teachers and find exactly what we do at Kent Hypnobirthing. For more information or to book your space click here.
Sending you positive birth vibes!
Love Sophie x